Here I am in Dalian, China, an area which I hardly know. I want to be open and excited about new experiences in a city not as documented as Beijing on the internet, but I can’t help but feeling helpless in many ways. I have one friend here (coworker),..my wireless router isn’t working properly..i haven’t found a bus schedule or foreigner friendly map…and the worst thing is that I have the chinese language level of a preschooler. Heck I can’t even write my own name yet!
The other day I went to the Bank of China to exchange my weakening dollar for chinese currency (RMB) which seems to be strengthening every day! There was only one other customer handling a transaction with a teller, so I stood behind awaiting my turn. Some other folks trickled in behind me so I was glad I had gotten there early. The first customer stood up and this lady jumps in front of me and talks to the teller before I could say anything! Ok, I’m in China, I have to remember that initiative is important, especially when waiting in lines. I’ll keep cool. The lady leaves and I make my way to the front and another lady cuts me off! My mind starts going berserk because I really wanted to say something this time but didn’t know how. I finally came up with my best sentence “bu shi yao pai dui ma?” which was my rough way of saying “you don’t need to stand in line?” There was not a flinch or acknowledgement from the lady that I had said anything; it felt as though I was invisible and mute yet I could feel other people boring a hole through my skull with their stares. I shook my head in disgust and laughed it off filling my head with snide remarks I would’ve wanted to say.
The moment the lady gathered her papers I observed another guy making his move so I quickly put my documents in front of the teller. Triumph!? …NOT! The teller tried telling me something I painfully couldn’t understand and the next customer was so kind to show me what I had been missing. He led me to this machine where you get a ticket to wait in line for your turn to be called. It dawned on me that there was in fact a well established system which beat the heck out of waiting in line. All of my bitter thoughts transformed into red pigments that sunk down to my face.
After some thought, I decided that more of these incidents would happen. I thought I came prepared to be a student of the culture to learn the nuances of living in a foreign land. But I feel that I will inevitably run into countless learning experiences which I want to record on this blog. My goal in China is to learn from the people and culture. And if I’m fortunate enough, I will have something for them to learn from as well.

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September 21, 2007 at 11:47 pm
chinamustard
one of the rules i’ll try abiding by from now on is to observe what everyone else is doing!
September 21, 2007 at 11:55 pm
J Szeto
Hahah, that’s pretty embarrassing. Glad to hear you’re doing alright!
September 21, 2007 at 11:59 pm
Micah
Hah! That’s pretty funny and…humbling.
September 22, 2007 at 12:10 am
Laura
Aww…hahaha. At least all those people weren’t just really rude. Nice to hear from you.
September 22, 2007 at 12:32 am
Beanie
hi ivan! cultural faux pas… funny in hindsight, really embarrassing in person. glad you’re well and now have some cash!
September 22, 2007 at 1:09 am
Sharon
man. sounds hard! esp. the language barrier!
September 22, 2007 at 6:13 pm
mama
glad you made it! I would’ve had “line rage!!”haha
hang in there!! do you think they know you’re FOP? (fresh of the plane?haha)
September 22, 2007 at 9:05 pm
Scott
wassup ivan, man.. hang in there. keep up the good attitude of flexibility.. you’ll be fine. and.. mark.. help a brother out yo! : )
September 22, 2007 at 9:06 pm
Scott
go mr mustard man!
September 24, 2007 at 6:20 pm
Shannon
man, i had many a similar experience at the multiple banks that took all my money. hehe… paying bills and opening accounts are rough. the quicker you find trusted friends who can translate for you, the better…
Good job though! Its nice to hear that you can make the best of even the embarassing situations.
October 5, 2007 at 3:53 am
steph kwan
haha i had the same experience in china and i was totally shaken up by the bus experience. O_O people stared at me because i didn’t know the bus etiquette! you put your experience very well in words.
i could’ve used your tips earlier this year! glad you’re doing well.